I Am Enough (And So Are You)

We all have skeletons in our closets. A story about ourselves that we don't read out loud to most people, if we read it to anyone at all.

I've allowed my demons to take control, and I've made bad decisions as a result of it. I'm working through my issues consistently, and I'm recognizing what I need to do to change it. People can be quick to point out your flaws, but I'm more at peace with myself and my choices than I ever have been. I'm realizing my worth more and more everyday. I'm realizing not everyone is here to root for your growth, and I'm learning to have enough self-respect to cut them off. I'm a good person; I have good intentions; I will love you fiercely. I'm not out to see anyone's downfall. But here's the thing about facing your demons: you are, without a doubt, going to have to deal with people who bring you down. These aren't your people. The right people will support you through your battle. That doesn't mean they dismiss it when you are doing something wrong, but that they help guide you through your journey with love. (But don’t forget: boundaries. We all have them, and we 100%, absolutely, need to set them.)

I refuse to go back to being the girl I used to be. The girl who lets others define her. The girl who got so in her head about what others said that she couldn't see what her life was worth.

I’ve sought outside validation for as long as I can remember. Looking for that empty feeling to be filled. But the truth is, no matter how much validation I received, it was never enough. And it will never be enough. That’s a feeling that can only be filled by me. For myself. And myself only.

I will always strive to be better than I was yesterday. To do this better, to do that better. There’s nothing wrong with having goals for yourself. But that doesn’t mean the person who you see in front of the mirror isn’t good enough. That person you are looking at in the mirror deserves the same love and compassion you give the rest of the world. Actually, they deserve MORE of it. YOU are the only person who can fulfill your needs, wants, and desires. You can’t put that into the hands of others. So, don’t. Start showing up for yourself.

It took a lot to get myself here. I had to hit rock bottom before I realized that I was the only person who could get myself back up. No one else was going to go to those lengths with me. And I found there’s light even in the deepest, darkest parts of myself.

While others scream judgement to hide their own skeletons dancing in their closet, I am happily dancing with mine.

I am worthy. I am loved. I am enough. And so are you.